Thursday, August 13, 2015

Anxiety


It's August, a month I dread every year.  It means that I have a month left of the happiest time of the year.  Everything comes to an end on August 31st, which means one thing:  change.  If there is something I really hate, it's CHANGE!!!  Change causes me to have extreme anxiety, and anxiety is a lot of work.  By the end of the month, it will take everything I've got not to have complete melt-down panic attacks.

Change #1:  the season and its weather – I love warmth and heat.  Here in the northern United States, it seems like we have ten months a year of cold, and two of warmth.  Right now the sun shines bright and powerful, the trees and grass are green, the flowers bloom, the bugs and birds are prolific, and the lakes even warm up to the point where they're not painful to get into and swim around.  Yet…already the leaves are beginning to look old, wilted, and some are even turning brown.  The birds are singing less, getting ready to prepare for winter, building up body weight for journeys, building winter environments for those that stay.  I've had to replant my planters with late-summer, early fall plants, and the nights are cooler, making the lakes cold, too.  All signs of change.

Change #2:  my home life.  Right now I get to pretend that I'm a stay-at-home mom and spend my days with my children.  When they were little, we spent all day together:  kiddie pools, popsicles, bike rides, trips to the zoos and museums.  Now that they're older (pre-teen and full-blown teen), we're not together quite as much (hanging with mom all day is just not cool!), yet we're still together quite a bit.  At the end of the month, full-time mom job will be over as we all head back to school, and then the crazy schedule will commence.  Don't get me wrong, summer has had its moment of crazy:  between baseball, 4-H, summer bands, Fine Arts camp, and now high school band camp, life has been busy.  But we've also been able to squeeze in trips to the pools and lakes, bike rides, shopping trips, and picnics.  Back-to-school seems to mean an end to the fun stuff.

Change #3:  back to work.  Let me clarify – I LOVE my job!  I'm a teacher and I love planning, curriculum, creation of activities that will hopefully help my students be creative, explore, have fun, and learn.  Yet, it also causes me complete anxiety.  A whole new batch of student names to learn (I'm notoriously bad with names); a whole new batch of teenagers judging my every move; new demands from administrators, adding on to the old demands (they never seem to go away anymore, they just keep building on); time constraints:  how do I take new, rigorous curriculum meant for 90-minute blocks, and integrate it with current required writing programs, project based learning, and technology – all within 55 minutes; and of course, papers:  papers, papers, and more papers.  Always the bazillion papers to grade, which means trying to balance being a teacher, mom, and wife, every evening and weekend for ten months a year. 

I've already started waking up early.  Half of June and all of July, I get a peaceful eight hours of sleep per night.  Around August 1st, this usually drops to seven, and by mid-August, I'm down to six hours.  I wake up with my mind whirling, trying to make sure I don't lose track of something.  (By the way, I'm bad-mom and already dropped the ball on what has to be done for my high-schooler to try out for the soccer team when he gets back from band camp.)  And all of this worrying really stems from one desire:  life to be happy and healthy for my whole family.  Will we all come out of this unscathed?  Will my children grow up and remember wonderful years with their mom, family, and friends, or will I be absent from their memory pictures?

Anxiety, anxiety, anxiety…

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